By Joanne Rosa
Wendy Watchers, we’re gonna give it to you straight, no chasers. When it comes to relationships, the women often sacrifice more than the men. We don’t like it, it’s not right, but it’s true.
Last week, The New York Times published an article about how women lose approximately two years of their freedom in life because they often go for older men, and men often go for younger women.
This isn’t so surprising, but it puts the importance of female singledom in perspective. Ladies, we need to enjoy ourselves! This is 2017, and there is no reason to rush into a relationship, or to the altar.
There are major benefits to being single. We know you’re busy, so we broke it down into a list in case you’re feeling bad about not having a boyfriend.
Ain’t nobody got time for mincing words!
Advance Your Career
Everyone knows you don’t just fall into your dream job, and you don’t get promotions every year. If you want to get anywhere in this life, you need to work your ass off! When it comes to a career, you know Auntie Wendy has the best advice. “A long time ago, people would collect their gold watch for thirty years of service—but not anymore. Most people keep moving. How can you get anywhere if you’re standing still?” By staying single, you’ll be more likely to advance in your field. By the time you get hitched, you should be established in your career, and know you’ll be able to support yourself comfortably without your partner. A woman should always be in charge of her well-being.
You gotta be making that money honey! The situation is, your savings are the foundation of your life. If there is an emergency, you want to invest in something, or maybe simply grab that purse from the six-hour flash sale, you can do it on your own, and you don’t need anyone’s permission (nor should you ever). “I think long and hard before I shell out,” Auntie Wendy says. “I put away quite a bit before I treat myself… Even [if] you need most of what you make to live on, you have to start saving.” Money gives you freedom and independence. It’s comforting to know that your finances are in your control.
Experience Different People
If you’ve always gone for the bookworms, the ones with a similar cultural background to your own, now is the time to branch out! You only live once, darling, and you want to taste as many flavors as you can. “Date. Date a lot. Date guys you wouldn’t normally think would be your type,” Auntie Wendy advises. Hell, have a flavor for every day if it pleases you! The amount of time you’re single is less than the amount of time you spend in a relationship or marriage. Make every count drop! You catch what we’re throwing?
Find Your Own Happiness
Before you shack up, spend time becoming your own best friend. As Auntie Wendy says, every girl should turn the key to her own apartment before sharing a space with their significant other. Don’t jump into a relationship because you feel a void in your life that you’re trying to fill. It might feel right at the time, but eventually you will realize that you’re still not happy. When you’re single you’re free to do you and don’t have to explain yourself to anyone! Find happiness in your own life rather than through your partner. Find yourself rather than being defined by the person next to you. Become the person you always wanted to be!