By Joanne Rosa
Ladies, we love you for who you are, and all of your quirks, but can we talk?
We keep seeing women do these things, and it’s not OK. Seriously, it’s not good for your well-being and it’s not good for all of the women out there.
Stop doing these things and be the Wonder Woman we know you are!
Arguably, this is the most common thing women do. Women are constantly saying they’re “sorry” for things they shouldn’t be sorry about! Things aren’t always your fault, so there is no need to apologize. Plus, when you think about it, you can almost always replace the word “sorry” with “thank you.” Instead of saying, “sorry for mishearing you,” you could instead say “thank you for repeating that for me.” You are still being polite, and you are not diminishing yourself.
Literally making yourself smaller
Speaking of diminishing yourself, change your body language. Why are women always making their presence smaller? One example we always see around the city is the subway scene. Guys (no, not all of you) man-spread their legs and over extend their arms, while women cross their legs and try to take up as little space as possible. Amy Cuddy said on a Ted Talk that women “chronically feel less powerful than men,” and it’s portrayed in our body language. When we make ourselves smaller, it determines how people can think of us. You deserve to be thought of as someone who is confident and powerful. Even if you don’t feel like it’s authentic, do it anyway, because people judge you based off of how you present yourself.
Ladies, if you are happy, have a job and a roof over your head, let the world know! You are worthy of praise. Don’t be afraid to toot your own horn. You don’t have to tell someone your weekend was “fine,” when it was actually amazing because you had a good review with your boss or a great visit with an old friend. Be your biggest fan and don’t be afraid to brag about your accomplishments.
Putting other women down
Women are constantly putting down other women. Whether it’s looks, career, or how they live their life, it seems that there is always a way to bring another woman down. Do the opposite. Even if we don’t like what someone does, or are jealous of their career, or think that she is prettier that doesn’t mean you should hate on them.