By Joanne Rosa
By this point, you two have been on more than a few dates.
You know he likes ravioli. He knows you order chardonnay. He enjoys your loud laughing. You like that he talks when he’s nervous.
It’s been three months and it’s time to ask the hard questions.
Find out if the person you’re crazy about is worth your time by bringing up these essential topics after three months of dating.
Life is all fun and games, until you find out he’s ready to go on a morning run with you, and you wanted to snuggle for another hour.
You should know what your partner’s lifestyle interests are regarding physical fitness, politics, leisure, career, finances, religion, and anything else you deem important. If you two don’t have a lot in common, don’t call it quits just yet.
Relationship expert and author of “He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing)” Andrea Syrtash says, “having some different interests from your partner makes your relationship more exciting. You don’t want to be with a carbon copy of yourself!”
Money always seems to cause arguments. “Ultimately, it’s not that someone has money, but how they are with money, that is important to figure out. Before pursuing a long term union, it’s important to find out if your partner has debts (and if so, how much), and how his or her credit score is.”
Simply put, ask your partner what they want out of life. If you are willing to work it out, meshing lifestyles is possible.
Often times, partners get frustrated with each other because they weren’t clear about what their expectations are when it comes to sex and intimacy.
“Expectations are important in any relationship…Emotionally, people should feel they’re in a partnership in which they have trust and respect—that’s the foundation of any healthy relationship. Sexually, they should communicate and express themselves if they’re not comfortable or want to try something new. Relationships break down when communication breaks down, so it’s important to express your needs, wants, and desires without putting your S.O. on the defensive” says Syrtash.
Remember that looks will fade, and all that will be left at some point is you and your partner, retired in a senior community in Florida, playing bingo. Communication is key. If you’re afraid or can’t express yourself, you’re probably in the wrong relationship.
Marriage, Family, and Kids
This one seems pretty obvious, but you need to get the deets on this situation, stat.
“Certain things are deal breakers to many people in relationships, like the decision to get married or have kids. If one person says no, you can’t move forward,” says Syrtash. You obviously don’t want to scare the guy off, but if you want different things in your future, it’s better that you find out now, and not a year from now.
As Wendy always says: “three is the magic number when it comes to relationships.”
Don’t waste time questioning everything in your head. Get to the point, so you can start getting serious, or start swiping right!