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The Other Woman

Tuesday June 29th, 2010

During “Ask Wendy,” an audience member got up and confessed in front of her friends for the very first time that she’s been sleeping with a married man for the past 10-years.

Could you support a friend who’s been sleeping with another woman’s man?

Watch Wendy’s advice and take our poll!

Sound off in the comment section below!

268 Comments

  1. Honestly, and this is going to be pretty hard and raw but I think its a very whorish thing to do considering he is married and if he wanted to be with her he would COMPLETLY be with just her. No matter what kind of man he is, or how he treats her, she is always going to be just ”the other women” and its pretty sad that she’s ok with being just that. How would she feel if that was her man doing that? It would crush my whole world and ive been with my husband for 6 years. Something to think about when she’s getting his wife’s slopey seconds and being his booty call! Sounds to me like she’s ok with being put second for 10 years and thats sad!!!! Its women like that that make u not trust other women! He’s getting the best of both wolrd’s and she’s never going to have a healthy relationship and be put 1st, and if sh is willing to be scandless and be a part of that then she doesnt deserve too!!!!

  2. Hi Wendy how you doing, I sympathize with the woman because I have been in her shoes. I hav been the other woman and I know that the experience that I was in I did not plan for it to turn out that way but it did. On one hand I regret it because there were children involved but I don’t regret the knowledge I got from the experience. Yes the young lady may hav used poor judgement but we do not know where her head was at the time she could hav been lonely and needed someone in her life to encourage her. People have in the past and still to this day carry on and participate in infidelity but it is not our place to judge them that should be left up to God. And besides you can’t put all of the blame on the young lady because it takes two to tangle.

  3. God blesses a child that’s got her own.you can never be blessed in your mess.prayer changes things start praying cause hell in larges it self everyday for folks like you.my husband wouldn’t and I say wouldn’t with have another woman while he’s married too me trust that_

  4. How you doing Mrs Williams,Don’t this woman know she’s causing problem in the family and can destroy the whole foundation of a loving family.When something like this happens it’s about self and no one else and NO, I couldn’t support a friend who is destroying someone elses family. I’am today a child of GOD and I have morals,I’am not judging,I’m only voiceing my opionion.One thing I strongly believe in,is what goes around comes around,because the world goes around and everything in the world,it will come back to you,don’t know when,but it will! Be careful of the choices you make in life!

  5. Hi, I have to comment about the friend with that women’s husband. The way I feel and I feel so very strongly about this is that any woman, who knows of a couple, having trouble or very happy and she makes the decision to sleep with the husband is nothing more than a whore. Now, before anything else is said, if a woman knowingly sleeps with someone else’s husband, that’s what she is.
    Mistress is a nice way of saying it, but given the situation, is there anything nice about what she is doing? Then most likely wants to remain friends when she is found out. Trust goes full circle. Husband, friend, family member, whatever. Once it is broken, it’s broken. The husband is no better. A friend of mine, a very close friend of mine, was having issues with her husband. His behavior raised red flags. She confronted him on several of these issues and because of her questioning (only stemming from his behaviors), he went and had an affair. Immature and so not manly.
    I want to say something to him, but I never do. It just disgusts me to see my friend (his wife), their children (who of course overheard arguments). It’s just so destructive and the “other woman”, should be shot.

  6. Look Wendy…when I was 22 years old I slept with a married man. He was 23 at the time. He told me that the only reason he was with her was because of the baby. I fell for it and did the deed. I ended it after that because I couldn’t handle the guilt. the point of my story is…this woman has been sleeping with someone husband for 10years. She should know better than that. If I was 22 and I knew better after the first time she should know better at least after the first year. If she is willing to be with a married man for 10 years she is not to be trusted. Her friends should try to help her but keep their men FAR FAR away! I really wish her the best

  7. hi wendy im sorry but i said i will be her friend till the end. i know mos people wil SAY WHAT U WANT TO HEAR THAT IS MORALLY RT. BUT HOWEVER I READ A FEW COMMENTS AND SOME POINTS THAT WERE TOUCHED IS TRUE BUT WHO AM I TO JUDGE AND SAY I WONT TALK TO MY FRIEND ANYMORE FOR THAT CHOICE .YOU CANT HELP WHO U LOVE IM NOT SAYIN ITS RT BUT SHE WILL STILL BE MY FRIEND AND I WILL TRUST HER AROUND MY MAN AS A FRIEND IF SHE WANTS MY MAN AND HE WANTS HER HEY LET ME KNOW WHAS UP AND I WILL STEP ASIDE………SORRY WENDY……….

  8. wendy , you still look wonderful and i value your opinion on many things. I pray that Fantansia Barrino get her self together because no man is worth losing your life over. She forgot her little daughter and men always tell you a lie about what is happening in his life. I want to know about her brother who sang with B.O.B on your show. He really sang that song , he has a nice voice. Does he sing anymore?

  9. i just want to say that messing with a married man is wrong plain wrong.

  10. Hi Wendy, I have a serious problem I would like to get your advice on this. I am very very unhappy at home I’ve been married for 10 years and I am so unhappy I’ve tried to make this marriage work for so many reasons first I don’t believe in giving up I took the vow for better or worst and want to live up to that vow however my husband did not turn out to be the man that I dated for 2 years he changed and became this whole other person, he’s was not loving caring concerned about me all he does is work all the time and never spends time with me and the kids and for 10 years I’ve been living in HELL. We have two children 1 biological and one step I love my children and did not want them to be effected by a split but I can’t take the unhappiness anymore.. I have told my husband that I don’t love him anymore but he does not except that and says we owe it to ourselves to try and make it work he promises he will change and make things better this time but guess what through out the 10 years he has made this very promise over and over and over and has not made good on his promises, I agreed at first but now i’m having second thoughts cause I’ve just had enough I don’t feel ANYTHING for him anymore, I love him as a person but not to be a lover and long time companion anymore. He thinks that there is someone else but there really is not. The problem that i’m having is that currently i’m not working and haven’t in two years because of an illness so currently i’m dependant on him financially which makes me feel trapped like I don’t have a choice but to be here so basically we are living like roommates cause i’m sooo not feeling him right now. And the worst thing is that last year I tried to take my life so that I can avoid this all and just not have to deal at all.. Well I survived the suicide obviously but the feelings are still there I feel dangerous to myself and I don’t know what to do….. I watch your show every night its like a treat from being down all day long…Wendy help me…

  11. FiRST OFF WENDY HOW YEW DUiN!!!!! i ADORE YOU AND YOUR SHOW…
    BUT iN THE CASE OF THE OTHER WOMAN…i FEEL AS THOUGH EVERY “STRONG MiNDED” WOMAN iS iNTiTLED TO THEiR OWN OPiNiON…& i HONESTLY BELiEVE iF A WOMAN WANTS TO BE THAT OTHER CHiCK THATS FiNE…THERE iS NO WAY THAT A ((HAPPiLY MARRiED)) MAN WiLL HAVE ANY DEALiNGS WiTH ANY ONE OTHER THEN HiS WiFE…& iF A SiNGLE WOMAN WHO WANTS TO HAVE A STRiNGS FREE FLiNG WiTH THiS UNHAPPiLY MARRiED MAN,HEY THERE BOTH ADULTS SO LET THEM HAV FUN…i’VE NEVER DONE iT, BUT iF ONE OF MY FRiENDS WANTED TO i WULD GiVE THEM MY BLESSiNG,BECAUSE THERE iS NOTHiNG WORSE THEN A DETERMiNED WOMAN,ONCE HER MiND iS SET ON WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO THEN THATS THAT…& THE BEST ADViCE i OR ANY ONE ELSE COULD POSSiBLE GiVE iS TO TELL THEM TO NOT GET THEiR FEELiNGS iNVOLVED…THiNGS LiKE THiS CAN ONLY END iN HEARTBREAK….

  12. Hi Wendy,

    I totally agree with not accepting a wedding engagement on Twitter or Facebook!! No way!! … but thank you for sharing your engagement photos with us. My question, is the ring that Kev proposed with the same ring you wear today? I’m just asking because I’m thinking, although you said he picked a great ring, I’m almost guessing that you had a hand in picking the one you wear today LOL!!!

    Thanks Wendy for being you, I love you and all the messy fabulousness that is You!!

  13. you should bring twiglight crew on ur show

  14. WENDY!!!

    ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Listen, if you would stoop so low as to try and take another woman’s man. . .what in the h-e-double hockey sticks, makes ME think that you could be trusted near, around, next to or even in the same ROOM as MY man???

    I wish I could say I have no experience, but I have a good girl-friend who is going through a divorce (NOT through yet, but going through, meaning “it still ain’t ovah”) and she has been carrying on with, not one but TWO other married men. She justifies it by saying “He’s not been happy; and is in a loveless marriage” (Um, yeah right! If I was a dude and wanted to get me some I would tell you I was in a loveless marriage, too!)

    I am NOT judging I am simply observing and making a choice based on my observations. Look, if you were in the woods and OBSERVED a bear EAT your friend, would you go over and try to touch that SAME BEAR???? I’m just sayin!!

    I still love her, and talk with her, but I do not agree with her choices. The very last thing I ever said about this to her was. . .”What goes around, comes around. It might not be to you but to your daughter, cousin, mother or other loved sister”

    Come on, we are supposed to be a big sisterhood, would you do this to your SISTER???

  15. HHOWW,YYOUU,DDOINN,WENDY,WWILLIAMS…..FIRST i would like to say, i answered no i would not want anything to do with that person, let me correct that,,I would still love that person because its in me to love every one,BUT she would,nt never acompany me with someone i was interested inn, I Would watch her very closely ,A person like that would never be tken around other family members husbands.. A person like that has no Love for anyone But themselfs, There only thinking of there selfs There not thinking about the children the wife nothing……And most of All they cant believe in gods word,,Because the Bible says You will reep What you soww,,Worldly Terms what go around comes around,,Every Bit of that is true. So shes not thinking of nothing but her own selfishWays,,A person like that is very SCANDLELESS and hass a very Wicket Mind,You can love a person from a far,,That Would be her, And many Prayers For her nasty ways.. just wanted to comment on that, I WOULD NEVER HAVE A CLOSE BOND WITH A PERSON LIKE, THAT,CAUSE IF SHES DOIN THAT TO ANOTHER WOMAN ,I DONT STAND A CHANCE, FROM A WOMAN TO ANOTHER, WE GO THROUGH ENOUGH, FOR US JUST BEING WOMAN HAVING TO FIND OUR PlACE IN LIFE,AND ANY FEMALE THAT HAS A FRIEND THATS DOING THAT, Dont be a fool and think she wont do it to u, she just didnt find interest in your husband,remember thats a selfish way in a person ,,and she wont be thinking about your feelingsss,, P.S THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING ME TO SHARE

  16. Hi Wendy,

    Yes that person would still be my friend, but i would encourage that friend to stop!. There is no future in that kind of relationship, I know because i did it for 6yrs. and although i knew it was wrong i still continued to do it, my friends never told me to stop, because they were’nt in a relationship at the time. The holiday’s and the fact that I could’nt talk to him at certain times in the day, because he was home started to get to me so I decided to end it myself and I felt better about myself for it. My thoughts were if he’s cheating on his wife with me, then who else is he with. With so much that’s happening in the world today I felt it was in my best interest to stop it.

    Thank You,

  17. Mrs. Williams;

    If your ever think about temporarily separating/legally separating/and or Divorcing a hussie, would you consider other marriage prospects, and marry on your righteous right hand Diamond ring finger??
    Why I’m asking? Hell I just put in application in advance, Sista’ !

    Listen Don’t doubt it, I love deep!!
    Right On,

    Eric
    p.s. I got a jewelry store right here for you to browse in my TOWN
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    your diamond source since 1918

  18. even though i have been friends for my best friend since we were very small i would still love her as family but if she was the other woman how could i trust her with being around my boyfriend or better yet if she has a boyfriend how can he trust her but we got to accept people for who they really are but it will get to us in some ways but in the end you have to make a decision for your self and for your friend. its hard to explain what we will decide if to trust or not to trust our best friend because we all different aspects on what we will do and we can only listen to our hearts and know what is right for us and the other people we love.

  19. I am a big fan of your show and wanted you to know that watching you bond with your mom put such a smile on my face. I lost my mommy 2 years ago to Ovarian Cancer (she was 55) and it was nice to see you appreciating her. I thought I was the only person who as an adult still called my mom mommy, it was awesome to hear that you do too. Love you Wendy!!

  20. This nothing to do with girl sleeping around, Please Wendy help ME I need a WIG real bad!! Or maybe you could hook me up with a Paula Young Coupon or somtehing please please pretty PLEASE! I had a auto acct. and was ejected throw the front windsheild of the car and I was sitting in the back seat. Thank God for the home owner who allowed the helicopter to land on her property! I alive by the grace of GOD and all the peole who saved me. Other than my lung which is now okay my head looks, well HOW YOU DOIN?? My head is a mess and I need, want a wig real bad!! I pray when I do get one I look as good as you do, sportin yours!! I love your show Wendy, GOD bless, and thanks for reading. Love, Angela Ruth Orlando, FL

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