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Moms Judging Moms

Thursday June 17th, 2010

A recent USA Today article discussed why moms judge other moms.

All moms are secretly judging each other and are worried about what other moms think of their parenting style.

Hear Wendy’s take and find out what she secretly judges other moms for.

Take a look.

Tell Us: Do you judge other moms? What do you judge them for?

70 Comments

  1. WENDY WILLIAMS, your comment about Homeschool offended millions… many of the kids that have killed themselves due to bullying should have had parents, that loved them enough to pull them out of the zoo like enviorment of public school and they may have lived to see another day. Home school is NOT for every child, neither is a public school enviroment for every child. its sad that most kids who are homeschool are the GOOD kids!!! The ones who need to be pulled out of the school system are the bad ones with behavioral problems, that make the teachers job so difficult they dont have the time or energy to focus on the good students that are there to learn. I feel that you use ur show to attack others, sometimes I think you forget where u came from… your slate is not clean!!! good parents dont plot to have someone killed to better your career. thank God Ms. Jones found out before it was to late. you are all about your career, even if it means someones life!!! and you have the nerves to judge parents that homeschool?? smdh

  2. Your purple dress is bangin! I enjoy the show…
    yes it’s your opinion(s) but so flawed..

    Studies are revealing more and more that vaccinations are causing adverse reactions..my 6 year old autistic daughter is living proof(suffered a febrile seizure at 18 months that left her mute, severely neurologically damagedn…furthermore…I had chickenpox at age 8, I’m about your age ..which means I survived!!!!
    If my child(ren) ever gets sick with chickenpox I will HOMESCHOOL(ha)
    which brings me to another one of your flawed opinions..I do NOT homeschool, however I have several friends that do, they’re children are well behaved and well mannered and PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS!!! I don’t have the time nor patience to homeschool. Blessings to them that do.
    I would like to see your findings on the these two things that you have such strong opinions about…

    anyhoo..dress is banging…

  3. Wendy,

    As I was watching your show at midnight (5/27/10) on BET, my nineteen year old daughter commented, “Mom, Wendy is like a friend in your head. You just have to catch her show.” I answered ‘yes’. However I was quite saddened as we listened to you remark about how you judge those of us who have chosen to educate our children using what is commonly known as “home schooling”. Yes, my husband and I decided to home school our daughter who is now a 19 year old, student attending college on scholarship, and with plans of completing her undergraduate degree next year, 2011 at age 20. I am a certified teacher who has worked in education at various levels from preschool through secondary education. I, like you, was quite ignorant about the benefits of home school prior to becoming an at home instructor. Those years I spent directing and carefully guiding my children’s maturation are absolutely priceless. Make no mistake, though, I do not recommend that every parent home school their kids. Nor do I think that all children are best served in an education program primarily directed by their parents. For me and my family, the times we spend at home together were and are absolutely the best for us. I would like to help give you and others information about the educational option formally known as “home school”.

    The first aspect of this type of instructional option that needs to be clarified is the misconception that home schooled children are sentenced and restricted to the limits of their homes. Actually, it was my experience that there were more goings-on and involvement for us outside our home while we were a “home schooling” family. I would go so far as to say that the function is actually better described as “parent directed schooling”. The schooling is parent directed because for me and other Georgian parents, the curriculum for each subject is chosen or created by the parent. Parents analyze textbooks, learning technologies, instructional aides or curriculum and decide the most cost effective and useful resources to use. Of course the itinerary of courses must adhere to the specifications established by the state board of education, especially once the student reaches those high school years. “Parent directed schooling” is also a more suitable term because students are intellectually enriched using a myriad of selected sources, including but not limited to: computer based programs, social organizations / etiquette classes, home school co-ops, scouting programs, community based music programs (choir & band), private music lessons, group foreign language classes, regional spelling bee and science fairs, mommy and me programs for younger children (up to age 3), church mother’s day out, community and church based preschool and kindergarten, local sports teams, junior dance troop for professional football team, dual enrollment college classes, professional tutors, online education discussion boards, establishing literacy club for younger students, tutoring students in need and other volunteerism, multi family camping trips, AWANA clubs, book clubs, internships with local employers (for pay and/or unpaid) and business ownership. Of course there must be many more ways that parents have found to enlighten the lives of their children. The list, I provided, only covers some of the activities and programs we participated in during the first twelve of my oldest daughter’s formal instructional years.
    Whether parents decide to ‘home school’ or use public and/or private educational institutions to instruct their children, they must be their children’s primary educational advocate. It is definitely the job of parents (along with community support when needed) to ensure that children are given the best opportunity to become productive and successful members of society.

  4. I think in the case of moms judging moms its that old saying, “the grass is always greener”. Somehow, becoming mom seems to come with it’s own insecurities. You would think the joy of having a miraculously bouncing, beautiful baby would keep us busy enough. Instead, we seem to become so involved in what others are doing or or not doing for their children. I’m going to assume that’s because it makes us feel better about our own shortcomings. Some stay-at-home moms may feel like they are missing someithing within themselves because they are stuck at home with kids. Working moms also may feel they are missing the milestones and important quality time with their children, expecially when the children are babies.

    Let me tell you, I have been on both sides and I always felt that I was missing out on something or wasting my education when I stayed home. When I worked, I was miserable as well and longed to be with my baby.

    The bottom line is you will not be happy either way. We have to find that balance that centers us everyday. If you work, don’t be overconsumed with it. Make quality time for your family. If you are a stay-at-home mom, be sure to take some time out for yourself alone or with your mate. Leave the children with a caretaker for the weekend sometimes for goodness sake. The bottom line is be to be sure to make yourself happy first, so that you can make your children happy… and stop judging others!!!

  5. I second (third, fourth!) the homeschooling comments. I’m a home school graduate; I finished my education at 16, was in college at 17, now at 24 have three degrees, a husband and a beautiful son whom we will be home schooling (he’s still a baby now). I work full time but still always make time to make sure my son is socialized and is attached to my husband and me. But when graduates from public school are failing 8th grade English, underperform against their international and privately schooled peers, it seems completely dishonest to assume that public schooling is somehow completely equivalent to an alternate education in terms of quality of teaching. A quality, competitive education is of primary importance to me for my son and I do not believe he can get that in a public school. There are so many dozens of studies that show that home schooled students receive a superior education and are not prevented from socialization. The HSLDA has a wealth of information you can look up before talking about something you clearly do not understand.

  6. Wendy, I’ve watched your show since day one, but im so offended by what you said about home schooling. how dare you? i think you should apologize to us.. i am as well socialized as any other 22 year old out there, i just done happen to be a coke-whore. im in an amazing relationship, and have had an amazing life. i’m happy i wasnt forced to go to dirty public schools, and that i didnt have a mom that worked all the damn time. wendy this really made me like you less :/ i wont feel good until you apologize.. really kinda disgusted.

  7. Wendy I can honestly say I that I don’t and would never judge you! I think your a marvelous woman and a great mother who is career minded and goal oriented, your so amazing girl! I judge just as well as you do Wendy, Im like you I judge when kids are being home schooled because like you I don’t feel there getting the socialization they would need that they would get in the public or private schools, I judge when parents know there kids are out of control and they do absolutly nothing to help or discipline that child, I judge women that rely on a man and don’t have there own careers to focus on, I judge on a wide range of issues and I know Wendy Im like you cuz Im sure the public judges me as well! Im sure people judge me because Im Gay, Im sure people judge me cuz Im HIV positive and proud, Im sure people judge me because I support the right for women to choose but so what cuz I don’t care who judges me as because I know I judge other people as well, Great show today Sweetie and I love you so much!

    Scott Stodden (Freeport,Illinois)

    (Your # 1 Fan Of All Time Who Would Die To Meet You)

  8. Wendy…How you doin?

    I am sorry but one comment offended me. You need not judge homeschoolers. School is not for socialization. It’s for education. It is up to the parent to socialize their child outside of school. Homeschoolers participate in many many activities. We do not hide out in our homes. Our kids not only socialize with kids their own age, they learn to get along with people of all ages. They go to the post office, the market and many other places. They have a more realistic view of what real life is. They see us paying bills, organizing our homes, giving back to our communities and more. This is a much better example of socialization…besides the fact that our schools are not doing what they should be.

    I don’t want my kids learning how to behave from other children…you can’t trust what kind of parenting they are getting. It’s funny how the same people that complain about the teacher to student ration being top large…can’t comprehend the value of one on one education by the very person that loves their child the most.

    Just remember this. The only other place that people of the similar age will be taking part in group forced activities is a nursing home.

  9. Wendy,

    I love that you are very honesty. Whether people like to admitt it or not, tey judge. it just takes a real woman to admitt that. i do pass judgments on other mothers, as i’m sure they pass them on me. Mothers take control of your kids…. i can’t stand seeing bratty tantrums thrown and you do noting about it. And to all the ladies so offended by Wendy’s opions…. they are her own personal opinions, that is why we love her, her tell it like it is attitude.

  10. Wendy, Your comment on homeschooling was IGNORANT! You really should watch what you say about things you apparently know NOTHING about. My children have been homeschooled all their lives and my oldest is graduating this year. They have always had many friends and most importantly a better quality of friends than what they would encounter at public school. They have been on field trips, on sports teams, girl scouts, science fairs, art classes, music lessons and my oldest just attended her junior/senior prom. They are bright, intelligent and well mannered and have lacked nothing as far as socialization. I have absolutely NO regrets that my children are missing out on being bullied, sexually harrassed, offered alcohol, drugs and cigarettes. They aren’t exposed to sexual activity and profanity and have never been molested or raped or enticed. I have had few behavior problems with my children and am proud of the decision I made all those years ago to homeschool them. It is hard enough to do what we do without ignorant comments from someone who admittedly states that your wants and needs come before that of your own child. I think you owe an apology to homeschool families everywhere…but you probably don’t have the decency to do so. I will never watch your show again

  11. Dear Wendy,

    I really started off liking your show now I am in the fence. You are starting to complain more you are no longer as easy- breezy as you used to be. I have noticed w/ every new atory of a man cheating on his wife you become more and more short sited and judgemental you are quick to tell ppl to get a divorce (when you yourself didn’t).

    Wendy be cool, be easy. Go back to the crazy and exciting ppl in the audience and just having fun and “doing it” (as you like to say)

    We want no holding back, balls to the wall, tacky and lovin it Wendy….. I miss her if no one else does.

    Forget branding and the main-stream that is why we like you. you are not apart of the main-stream machine.

    Come back Wendy,
    Fan on the fence

  12. Wendy…I love your show but lately you have just been spitting out some stuff that I’m having a hard time accepting. I dont know what your issue is with homeschoolers, but what you said was totally not necessary. I would expect a little more understanding about respecting parenting choices from a woman who had so many miscarriages. Everyone doesnt have your money or live in perfect “Jersey”. By the way….CUT THE WHITE JERSEY CRAP!!!
    It’s NOT CUTE!

  13. hi wendy u look phenomenal 2day!!! HOW U DOIN’!!

  14. Thank you so much for creating such an incredible, entertaining show. Please have more legendary actors and actresses on your show. I love how you incorporate such ladies as Doris Roberts and Dihann Carol into your guest format. I really loved seeing Dolly Parton on your show as well as some of the country artists lately. Please start having more country music performers guest on the show. Dolly Parton will be in NYC in July promoting her special that will be airing on the Hallmark Channel. I heard that she is doing Regis, Letterman, and another program. Please get her on your show in person while she is in town and ask her to perform on your show. She is my favorite. You should do a show remote with Dolly live at Dollywood. Dolly usually makes 3 or 4 appearances at her park every year and you would love it. She was great on Oprah the other day but only YOU can interview the celebrities.

  15. hey dont judge me – i didn’t breast feed so i could have some cold beers this summer. ps wendy dont feel bad @ your pregnacy weight i gained 85 lbs and like you lost a few. my hubby said the next day “” feel any lighter? and me & my 275lb body & cut stomach looked at him like r u crazy? then he commented like throwin’ a deck chair off the queen mary – HOW U DOIN wanted to throw him of the Queen mary like a deck chair!!! anyway would love a shirt. XXL of course!! cheers mamma love Anita Lay.

  16. It would be great if you stopped talking out of BOTH SIDES of your mouth Wendy…
    “Oh, its terrible to judge”, but guess what “I DO” (Wendy)… AND you’re all stiff lipped and serious with your segments with over weight kids….BUUUT Don’t you DARE judge me if “I give little Kev an extra slice of pizza” (Wendy) Honestly Wendy? get it together and keep your selective priorities and criticisms to YOURSELF. You’re a hypocrite.

    I mean wasn’t that supposed to be your message with judging? Do it if you must just keep it to yourself? Although you *clearly* DO NOT! Have your ratings dipped? Just curious because some of your comments need to be kept in the Williams Household.

    I mean how are you gonna let a guest on your show; a pro volley ball player describe more eloquently the dynamics of prerogative depending on household make up and comfort level better than you ever could???? How does that happen???? Its very telling about you Wendy. Whether or not a person has a certain comfort level and depending on their household make up is going to determine how that person runs their household. I found it VERY offensive and surprising that you have the audacity to judge SO harshly.

    Some things are understandable, i.e a filthy house, but other things are just a matter of opinion preference and opinion and YOU SHOULD HAVE KEPT YOURS TO YOURSELF, ESPECIALLY SINCE YOUR CAME OFF AS BEING A HIPOCRITE RATHER THAN THE COMMON MOM THAT HAS THE “MAJORITY RULE RIGHT TO JUDGE” Meaning, sometimes people collectively can agree some acts are so objectionable that it NEEDS to be brought to a moms attention rather than minor things that are a matter of what a family composition is comfortable with…. i.e accepting abuse in the home, kids that run a household ect… collectibvely just WRONG TO HAVE IN ANY HOUSEHOLD… JUST DISAPPOINTED WITH YOUR LOOSE MOUTH AND EXTREMELY UNFOUNFDED AND JUDGEMENTAL MIND/MOUTH! unreal Wendy

  17. Hey Wendy hon! I love your show and you, but as a mom who homeschools her children, I was very offended by you saying that home schooled kids do not get the social skills as ones attending regular school. My kids were in regular schools and they always made the honor roll, but the schools in our area are not doing so well as a whole, therefore I pulled them out. I live in Dallas TX, and there are so many organizations down here for homeschooled children to go on field trips together, participate in sports, and plenty of workshops and conventions for not only the kids, but the parents as well. Homeschooling is also a way to keep my children safe from bullies in the schools and the crimes that are being committed in the schools. My children are still honor roll students, and my son has ADHD so homeschooling is especially god for him to get one on one learning. I know you are very opinionated and I still love ya and your show, but just had to respond.

  18. Yes……. Let’s keep it real wl ALL do. There is something in evey mom that makes each one of think that we are the very best mom in the world and we know eveything.
    P.S. I bought my first wig because of you and I love it!

    Teresa Harris age 25
    Mom of 1 little boy age 2

  19. I’m not going to lie I do judge other moms depending on the situation. I don’t make it a habit but there are times some mothers do things that don’t make any sense. My son is 6 and he still sleeps in the bed with me. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. He doesn’t sleep with me every night but there are times when he doesn’t want to sleep in his own bed he will sleep with me.

    HOW YOU DOIN’

  20. Wendy,

    Yes, I judge Moms when I see them letting their kids disrespect them and other adults. I can not stand a sassy mouth child and the Mom will not say anything but let them be rude. Also, I can not stand to see a Mom and her young daughter parading in the mall looking like yesterdays trash. Whatever happened to morals and respect. I can not stand to see young and older women come to church with all of their behinds showing and thongs on wearing low rider pants or jeans or a very short dress on and absolutely no slip at all. Just showing all of that cellulite. I have nothing against wearing pants to church its just that some women have taken it to the extreme and it is not right. Yes I said it. I am from the old school and I still believe in young ladies being just that and Mothers setting a good example for them.
    Tonya in Raleigh

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