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Poll: To Spank or Not to Spank?

Wednesday April 28th, 2010

According to a new study by C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital at the University of Michigan, spanking is on the decline.

1-in-5 parents admit to spanking their kids when necessary, but talking with your child or taking away a privilege are becoming more common. (via usatoday.com)

Take the wendyshow.com poll and tell us if you think spanking is an acceptable way to discipline your children.


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  1. Wendy, I think spanking children is acceptable as a last resort. I was spanked often as a child and I turned out to be a well adjusted adult. I also raised two beautiful daughters and occasionally spanked them for very serious offenses, like shop-lifting from Sears, or fighting with other children on the playground at school. They are both now full-grown and beautiful people; married with their own kids. They also spank their youngsters on occasion, so I am told. They now thank me for raising them the way I did. All spankings should be given in a very loving way.

  2. I didn’t get spanked. I got beat with a belt on my bare bottom. And my mind is not emotionally “messed up” so the person that said that is wrong. I am fine. No parent enjoys spanking their kids. That’s not fun for them. Parents hate spanking their kids. Im not a violent person either. I don’t like arguing and I can’t stand fighting. So im prove that there is nothing wrong with spanking.

  3. Spanking is not child abuse. Spanking on the bare bottom is not child abuse either. Its not child abuse as long there is no bruises, blood, and broken bones. Child abuse is not just whooping/spanking a child. You can abuse a child without touching them. You can abuse a child emotionally and mentally. Its get my nerves when people say spanking is child abuse. Its discipline.

  4. I spank as a last resort I got spanked when I was a young girl and im fine and so are my siblings. People need to relax…….the same people who are saying I talk to my children are the same mother getting cursed out. They wont admit it too you but I have seem it first hand. These are also children who are allowed to make there own structure at home or have no structure. My boys are smart, well rounded, articulate young men and although they dont get spank often im not opposed to it, and will use spanking as a last resort after Im not angry anymore.

    Lastly for the folks quoting the bible you may want to read it again and read the KING JAMES version……..

  5. OMG! I’m so concerned with all the responses I just read that I don’t know how to put into words how unacceptable it is that most felt the need to express the importance of inflicting fear, pain and defenslessness onto helpless children. Jesus did not say to hit children, He said “…suffer the children to come unto me, for such is the Kingdom of Heaven.” He also said, “…better to have a milstone tied around your neck and thrown into the deepest sea than to harm one these little ones.” There is not one situation in the scriptures where it is instructed to physically punish a child. God instructs us to :..come to Him as one of these ..” I wouldn’t go to Him for one second if I thought any type of corporal punishment awaited me. How interesting the law forbids cops, lawyers, judges, etc., to put a hand on obvious offenders, yet parents think its okay to physically harm their children and expect love, affection, respect and obedience in return. Its very common to find juvenile inmates who prefer incarceration to home. With those responses, I can empathize with their situation. Wendy please don’t perpetuate any further support of hitting children. I beg you. I can’t begin to share the destruction it wroughts. Trust me. ..Marie

  6. children are like the way they are today because of dyfs, the states has taken awayspanking your child but it’s okay for state to beat them in jail.

  7. yes spank that ass,it’s nothing wrong with spanking your child.

  8. spank that ass, it’s nothing wrong with it

  9. I feel that children need to spank especially when doing wrong. Our system has a lot of things messed up in reference to allowing children to THINK they run things and they used it to their advantage. I spanked my children when they were younger. I remember a time my sons were running in a store so I took a belt off the rack and spanked them with it and when I was finish i put it back. A lady seen me do it and told me she was going to call the police I told her to go ahead I will be right here waiting on them; because I felt that whereever you embarass me I am going to embarass you. A spanking or a beating did not kill me and it was not going to kill them. I love all my children (4) I worked hard everyday and made sure everyday when they came home they had a hot meal, we always went to church on Sundays and now they are 26,25, 22, and 19.

  10. yes! I believe parents should spank their children and the best way to that is to start when they are young. The minute your child understand english. That’s the time. I suggest that you take your child, when being out of hand, not wanting to listen, or even talking back, that you should pull their pants down, take them across your lap, and spank them with your hand. now if you have problems holding them down, just put your leg over their leg, your one arm across the back of their head, holding one hand with your hand. ( most! know how to spank a child, when you put them across your lap) You spank the child on butt with your hands, several times, talking at the same time. such as: didnt I tell you to sit down, now I said, “sit down!” For each word, that’s a spank. so now that would be 12 times. by the time you stop spanking, your child should be not only crying, but rubbing his or her butt. then you continue to say go sit down and it will be done. I tell you after two, no more than three times spanking your child, you shouldn’t have to spank your child for along time. guaranty! simply because, every time you say, you want me to pull down your pants? your child will stop whatever he or she is doing and tell you no. doing what you said, with no problem. This works very well, when you’re in public. Now! If you have to take your child across your lap more than three times, that means you are not spanking the child in the right way. you are tapping the child lightly. no!! spanking is for a reason. It’s to let your child know that you are the one in charge. That you are the parent. This spanking is guaranty to work. That is the only spanking that I agree to. you must start at a young age and you will see the respect your child will have for you. Very important your children knows whose in charge. This makes a big different by the time your child gets older. now! how long can you spank a child this way? until he or she is about 7,8 or 9yrs old. Mostly according to the child. Your child may not be difficult, when listening to you. After 9 yrs old, it takes alot of talking and spending time with your child. teaching them all about life. you may have to talk until you are blue in the face, but! keep talking. you can’t give up on your child, no matter what!! This is where a lot of parents fail. Start young, and you won’t have any problems or as much problem when they get older. I guaranty this works!! the best way to spank!!………………..Amanda

  11. Wendy, I think its fine to spank but not to abuse. The difference lies in the motivation of the spanker. Spanking should be used as a tool to teach – it should inflict enough pain to grab the attention of the child in teaching a lesson. However, if you are spanking because you don’t want the child to embarrass you or some other vain reason, it’s possible to abuse (use spanking for another reason than it is intended). If it’s about the child and not the parent, then spanking will be controlled and utilized in an effective way.

  12. I believe that you have 3 strikes 1 I tell you what you did wrong (warning) 2. I take something away from you like the phone, tv, internet, and you do i a third time the belt and you but will be friends..

  13. You can call it spanking, but it is hitting your child. Hitting is not displine with love. Hitting is hitting. Children who are hit are mean to other children. I work with children and I have seen children hit other children and when questioned I hear the same thing over and over again. I hear statements such as, “That is what mommmy and daddy does to me when I do something they do not like.” . Spanking is not teaching a child to use their words. It is teaching them to use aggression instead. It is funny. I am surrounded by children everyday and never has thought that we should be hitting those who are not listening ever come to me. There are so many other methods that we use on a daily basis that helps teach the children how to behave and they work. Not spanking is not what is wrong with children today. It is a variety of things and not from parents not spanking. Showing children how we want them to behave works a lot better then hitting or time-outs.

  14. thats whats wrong with the kids today they dont get spanked they get a slap on the wrist and its done they go out and do it again.Im 47 yrs old and i usded to get it right in the sore, mall or where ever i acted up. look at the kids now and the ones that grew up 40yrs plus ago. there are more going to jail or prison now then back then spanking is good i spanked mine and they are ok. I spanked one off mine over some not so good music he listened too and he said he was going to call the cops so i dialed 911 and handed him the phone the cops came and to his surprise the cops sided with me and one off them said your dad took it easy on you if you were mine u would be in worse shape

  15. Spanking is very effective when a parent uses it sparingly, fairly, and in an appropriate manner. As you said, it should be “on the back burner.” It should be reserved for the most serious offenses, and never used as an idle threat.
    There is a huge difference between spanking and beating. Children should never be emotionally or physically abused.

  16. To the people that are using spare the rod spoil the child to get away with “BEATING or WHOOPING their ASS” as alot of you put it…. ROD in hebrew = “DISCIPLIN” so realy you should understand what your reading before you use it as a reason to get away with BEATING or WHOOPING their ASS!!! a better way to explain it would be to say “spare the DISCIPLIN spare the child” YES discaplin NOT BEAT or WHOOP their ASS!….or put it this way could you see Jesus beating a child with a rod??? NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  17. WENDY SHORT AND TO THE POINT, I BEATS THAT ASS. I DONT PLAY YES I GO BY THE THREE STRIKES RULES THIRD STRIKE THAT ASS IS MINE!! THE PRINCIPAL ASKED ME WHEN I PULLED OUT MY BELT., IS THIS NECESSARY I ASKED HIM WAS IT NECESSARY FOR YOU TO CALL ME I TOLD HIM I TRIED IT YALL WAY LAST YEAR THIS YEAR ITS MY WAY. BEAT THAT ASS OH BY THE WAY LUV YOU WENDY HOW YOUUUUUUUU DOOOOOIIIIINNNN

  18. To all you people that are trying to use the bible verse “spare the rod spoil the child” you need to go talk to your Pastor & ask what that realy means because its not giving you permition to beat your child! The rod is in reference to the rod or staf of a shepheard & it’s talking about like when a sheep goes out of line he is to use the rod to guide his sheep back in line sometimes using the hook end to pull them back it does NOT mean to beat your child with a rod!!!! Therefor when your kids get out of line you are to guide them back into line NOT beat them!!!!

  19. Dear, Wendy

    No, I believe spanking children isn’t good and that there is a better way scream
    at the hard and make them scared than you won’t need to spank them!

    PS: I love your little spanking story in Target I love it, it was so funny
    uh! wendy you always make me luagh! I love you Wendy!!

  20. I spanked my son when needed until he was 7 years old. At that point I felt he was to old for spanking but, he was old enough to understand losing privileges and had a better concept of time. I began punishing him by taking his favorite things away for specified lengths of time. By taking away, I mean if I said no Playstation I took the controls and connections to work with me so there was no sneaking and playing. I always explained to my son what behavior he did that was wrong and why he had to be penalized so he would understand what he did wrong. (I did this even if he was getting a spanking). I am told I have a wonderful teenager and people are amazed at the respect and love that we have for each other. People are even more surprised when they find out I raised him alone. I am not bragging (but, I am bragging), my son will be attending an outstanding University (Washington and Lee…Go Generals!) in the fall on a full academic scholarship. So a spanking is a spanking but, a beating is a beating. When they are little all you need to use is your hand not a paddle, spatula or belt… Thanks Wendy…We love your show!

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