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How Old is Too Old: Taking Your Son into the Ladies Room

Monday April 26th, 2010

How old is too old to bring your child into a public ladies room?

Dana Loesch from momversation.com posted this exact question on her blog and got a lot of feedback.

Find out what Wendy thinks about bringing her 9-year-old son, Little Kev, into a public ladies room.

Take a look and sound off in the comment section below.

77 Comments

  1. Hi ladies,
    I am a mother of a 15 year old son and when we go to rest areas or real busy places then I take him into the womens room. if he refuses he gets a spanking either inside the room or outside.

  2. Thanks for bringing this subject up Wendy! I live in Chicago and just yesterday, in a very heavily populated area, an 8 year old boy was molested in a very popular McDonald’s across from Wrigley Field. The boy was forced into a stall and the man pulled his pants and the childs pants down and molested him. My little one is only 22 months right now but this made me think of this same question and how old is too old, etc. The person who molested the child was caught and arrested and surprise, surprise he just finished serving parole for a previous offense that he was convicted of as a sexual offender. Ladies who are offended because mother’s insist on bringing their boys in the restroom with them, get over it! Life changes when you become a mother and your first and only priority is the safety of your child.

  3. As a childcare expert (Psychotherapist, MSW, LSW) and more so a mother of 3 adult son’s, I can fairly state that there is no specific age when it is “safe” to permit a young male child to visit a public adult bathroom alone.Children mature at different ages, personality types vary and the specific upbringing of a child based on his/her environment have a significant impact on how a child may react in similar situations. For example a nine year boy raised in a more inner city setting may have been taught to fight, use certain language, etc. when approached by any unfamiliar person. (Wendy I think you know what i’m trying to say). Yet another 9yr old raised in a more suburban, intellectual setting will appear shy and less aware of his surroundings. Pedophiles know exactly which children to prey on. So my recommendation is to ‘KNOW’ the personality type of your child and protect them accordingly. One 9yr old may be able to recognize that he is more adversely effected by going into a ladies room and would prefer to be a “big boy”. Yet another 9yr old will not be as threatened going with mom than being alone with strange big men. It’s a mother’s responsibility to determine what is in the best interest of her child. The alternative is long term damage. I know I’m trying make a complicated situation fit in a small box. I hope my point is understood.

  4. Ok so my 2 sons are 12 and 10 and i bring them with me to the ladies room when me/them need to go which they absolutley hate but it is safer and their father isnt around to bring them to the mens room so they have to go into the girls room which doesnt make them a girl but i think ill let them go at 13.

  5. I am with you Wendy and all the mothers out there that know there are evil people out there that prey on kids. My son is 15 yrs old and I still do all the ckecking and stand out side the door and yell to my son and look at every man that comes in and out so they know I see them. It is my job to protect my son and if anyone ever hurt him, I would KILL them. thank you and How You Doin!!

  6. I take my son in the restroom with me(he is only 5), when ever daddy is not with us. A girl going into a mens restroom is different…things are exposed. I think 10-12? Just depends on what you & your child are comfortable with. ???

  7. In 2006 there was a 9yr old boy whose grandmother finally let him go the mens room by himself inside of a resteraunt, 30min later she went to check on him to see if he was ok.. she found him hudled in a ball on the floor bleeding and crying. He had been raped by a grown man. HELL no I will be right by that door with my foot in the crack. Women who have a problem with them in the womens room with us get over it when you have kids you will know how we feel. There are sick people out there.

  8. When the child no the differnce between the Men and Ladies rm (about 4 yrs old) they are too old to be exposed and still sharing restrooms with Women especially in public. Family bathroom fine public Nooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!

  9. I say ten! But my Mother would have spanked me,my twin,or the elder two and would not have cared who saw!

  10. Hey Wendy! HoW U DoInG???? So I am a mother of 2. I think it all depends on the child. Each child mentally grows up differently. But really does it matter. Why does it matter if a boy uses the womens restroom. Its not like we sit down infront of anyone. There are stalls!!! I can see the other way around a girl going to the mens restroom, because they pee out in the open. I think a child is old enough to use the restroom at age 9 or so. But I would be waitin at the door.

  11. My son is 8 years old.He prefers the mens room, but I don’t like him being in there by him self. I will usually take him to the athroom in one of those family bathrooms, I would stand out side the door and wait for him or he can go into a single mens room by himself if there is just one toliet. If we are somewhere where there are bathrooms for multiple people He goes in with me to the ladies room but hes small so he looks like hes 4 even though hes 8 so ladies dont seem to mind. Or I will let him go in the bathroom with his older brother to keep an eye on him.

  12. i thnk you should take your child to the bathroom unitll he/she knowns how to go to the bathroom alone without you thte parent feeling scared. Once you are ready then you are ready

  13. This is a tuff subject. Honestly though… Little boys that have been hurt by grown men have usually been hurt by the men the family know and would never think they would do such a thing. We should allow our childern some time alone in the bathroom at an age they think they are ready. Lets give ladys some privacy in the restroom too. Ask the men at what age they should not let little girls in the bathroom with them (please). But I wont ever judge a mom for her choice in how to raise her sons. I suppose I can wait out side for her half grown boys to leave the potty so I can go in to put a quarter in the machine to buy me a pad so I can enter a stall to use it.

  14. For all you women who have a problem with mother’s bring their son’s into the ladies room. You really need to get over it. Unfortunately, we live in a time when their are some really sick people out there.

  15. It really frustrates me when mother’s bring their son into the ladies bathroom. Obviously when they’re young, it’s expected. But the other day I seen a boy as tall as I was in the bathroom waiting for his mother to finish her business. That made me very uncomfortable! Come on!

  16. How you doin?

    I use to go to the men room and before my son went in, I would open the door and yell HELLO. No answer I would walk in and check.

    My son would enter and like you I stood with my foot in the door. If any body walked in I would be asking my son, are you okay.

    I am from Brooklyn so you know how many argument I had.

    Friend in My head,

  17. Hey Wendy! HOW U DOING ? People need to understand these are different times. I am a mother of twins boys age 15 now, and we also have a 7 year old. The twins went into the rest room with me until about 12 the 7 year old still go into the the restroom with me. I know my husband was upset with me at times because when one of the kids had to go all of them had to go, including him. I will never forget reading about a aunt let her 7 or 8 year old go into a public rest area and a crazy person killed him. Stabbed him to dealth Wendy ! Why ? The answer i came up with is the devil is busy. It is our duty to protect them by any means necessary.

    Always a MOTHER

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