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How Long Should You Wait before Having Sex?

Wednesday April 7th, 2010

3 dates or 3 months?

Just because you can’t come to the show and ask Wendy your question in person, doesn’t mean you can’t get Wendy’s advice.

Parcel, from Pennsylvania, is a Fan Squad member and really likes this guy she’s dating. She wants to know if she should enforce her 90 day rule, or give up the goods.

Watch this video of Wendy in her dressing room and find out how long she thinks you should wait before having sex.

Take a look!

32 Comments

  1. I believe two months is legit, often times I’ve heard it takes 6 to eight months to really know what a guy is like; however the older you get the wiser you are. go for it :)

  2. i think that u should wait for about a few month’s but first u should get 2 know that person first

  3. Wendy i am a die heart fan, i watch your show daily and the recorded is set just in case i am not home. I am also a American Idol fan. I was watching your show on thursday April 22nd and you made the statement that you gave up on Casey, i understand that but what i dont understand is why you seem to be so hard on my man Michael. I have listen to him sing every song since the season started and i must say Michael has a unique voice and he is great i also like Crystal its my guest that between the two one will win at least that’s what iam hoping for. Wendy want you give da brother a chance because he is great and he has work hard to get where he is today.

  4. i think you shpuld wait until you are married or some good guy comes along and sweep you off you feet

  5. hi wendy i just love you let me tell you why because i have never seen any one on tv as real as you your show is here to stay keep on being you love you

  6. I dont believe that sex should have time limits at all.I completly agree with waiting it out till the time is right.Weather the time is 6 months to a year,till marriage or even if its 2 weeks?i think WE as women overprocess some of these situation.As long as your protecting yourself ,have fun.Sex is normal y do we treat it like a meeting of some sort?By the way i would also like to mention that sex is a fair exchange between a man and a women (if its done right,lol).Some women need to stop acting as if its a doggy treat for men!

  7. I’m old school.
    If I was dating someone I would say 6 months.
    If the guy can’t wait until then, it just means that he wasnt into you.
    But that’s just me. I have some friends who give it up on the 3rd date !
    I’m just not into having my time wasted anymore and would prefer to wait until the relationship turns serious. I’m tired of being the “cow” and not being purchased aka “why buy the cow when the milk is free” saying. :)

  8. Hey Wendy, How You Doin?

    I am a virgin and I even understand waiting too long is like not having a taste of your favorite food for three months but the longer you wait the greater your food would taste.

    Love ya

  9. well i would’nt put a time on it whatever happens just happens some people you are
    attracted to sexually from the start so i say just go with the flow of things.

  10. I waited 3mos only cause I knew he was special, otherwise it would’ve been a 1 night stand. 13yrs later & still going strong!

    We met @ a bar. Wanted to spend more time with him so I invited him back to my house, along with everyone else. A girlfriend was staying the night, so I let him stay too-we were fully clothed entire night. Once asked him why he kept persuing me, he said it was “because he was intrigued”. XOXOs

  11. 18 for sure, at least be legal enough to know what pro-choice and pro- life means

  12. 2 weeks!! NO WENDY NO! Ok, lets say shes has sex with him with the 2 weeks, now ifthats all he wants from her anyways hes out the door and shell never hear from him again. Now lets say she holds out within the 3 months, if he still treats her right and takes her to dinners and doesnt “force” her to have sex with him then its all good. A man is only going to wait so long for sex before he gives up and go finds someone else. So i think she should wait. Theres alot of other sexual things that she can do without giving up the boogina. How you doin’

  13. I would have to disagree with ya Wendy. My boyfriend and I were dating over 1 and 1/2 years before we got busy and neither of us were unfaithful or wanted anyone else during that time. I think it all depends on what your looking for and the people that are in the relationship. I would say that it wasn’t always easy to do but we did gain a lot more respect for each other by going that route. We have now been together happily for about 5 years.

    **Side Note** I’m not looking down on anyone who has sex after 2 weeks,no judgments in this corner, but the 90 day rule is preferred in my opinion if its someone you seriously want to be with and who seriously wants to be with you.

  14. Men look at a woman different once he has sex with her. If she does it after 3 dates, he’s gonna assume she does it with every other guy in the same amount of time. I believe, if he likes you the same way you like him, he will respect your decision to hold out. Plus, if things go sour before 3 months, that’s one less partner you have to list on your anual check-up! lol
    I have 5 brothers, 3 older and 2 younger, and they older ones have always talked in front of me or to me about the girls they talk to and just how guys see things compared to girls. Yea, you wanna do what you wanna do, but if you’re looking for a lasting relationship, let him know you’re serious by waiting. Your body’s too precious to share it with someone you’ve only known for 2 weeks!

  15. I feel that the women of today sleep with men to fast. I feel if you withhold sex, not foreve but atleast ninety days that you can really get to know him not just for what he can do but for who he is.

  16. anytime u have to ask, it’s a no. period. “give up the goods” tells me U R either an oldie or taught by an oldie. I am 65 going on 66 and sex to me was not a case of giving up the goods, it was an even exchange or I sat on it. Makes me think of being a market item!!

    If there is chemistry , might “happen” on the first date. Whatever, use protection. Carry your own.

  17. i think u should wait maybe a good 2months if u really into that person i’ll b quick 2 find out who he doing or what he have been doing get all the information out of him 1st and if u feel like u can trust him go 4 it how yur durrin!!

  18. 3 months!? That’s a bit too excessive! I definitely agree with Wendy! 2 weeks or less in some situations is a good enough waiting period! Love you Wendy!

  19. two weeks is not long enough @ all! i think you should wait until you are comfortable with the person & u feel like there can honestly be a future before you give urself so intimately to someone. there shouldn’t be a set limit, but @least a month is more appropriate.
    love the show! thanks

  20. 3 months!

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