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Getting Even after an Affair!

Tuesday April 6th, 2010

Don’t get mad. Get even?

Morgan, from Indiana, is a Fan Squad member and her husband recently confessed to having an affair with a co-worker. They’re working things out, but Morgan’s husband says he doesn’t have a problem if she steps out on their marriage too. What should she do?

Wendy answered Morgan’s question in her dressing room, after the show, and revealed whether or not she thinks it’s okay to cheat on your partner if they’ve cheated on you.

Take a look!

27 Comments

  1. Yes! She should step ALL the way out! At least until he gets his things out of HER House!

  2. THIS HAPPENED TO ME. NOT A CO-WORKER BUT SOME RANDOM FEMALE HE HAPPENED TO MEET ALONG THE WAY. AND IM NOT SURE WHAT REALLY ACTUALLY HAPPENED BETWEEN THEM, BUT I KNOW SHE DISLIKED ME AND SHE DIDN’T EVEN KNOW ME! LONG STORY SHORT I GOT HIM BACK SO BAD HE CRIED FOR MONTHS, AND THIS MADE HIM CHANGE A COMPLETE 180. HE WAS 1000% INSECURE, HIS SELF ESTEEM DIMINISHED AND IT TOOK A WHOLE YEAR FOR HIM TO STOP HAVING WEEKLY OUTBURTS OF THE EVENTS THAT AFFECTED HIM REGARDING THIS MAN. I CARED ABOUT THE MAN BUT NOT LIKE THAT…HE WAS RE-BOUND FOR GET BACK ON MY HUSBAND. PRIOR TO ME STEPPING OUT, I HAD TO PRAY “EVERY SINGLE DAY” FOR THE STRENGTH TO KEEP IT TOGETHER.AND I WOULD SAY TO HIM…JUST BECAUSE IM NOT OUT HERE CHEATING…DONT THINK I CANT PULL NO N…..S! AND HE KEPT TESTING ME AND TESTING ME. AND THEN IT HAPPENED. THE REBOUND WAS VERY VERY WELL OFF, AND I THINK OF ALL THINGS THAT IS WHAT MADE THE SITUATION HARDER FOR HIM. BUT…I SAY..TILL THIS DAY, YOU STARTED THIS MESS. I JUST FINISHED IT..SO NOW WERE EVEN. HE IS THE BEST MAN NOW AS HE WAS WHEN WE 1ST DATED 8 YEARS AGO. THIS DRAMA HAPPENED IN 2007-2008. JESS’S GET BACK LAST THE WHOLE YEAR OF 2009…HUSBANDS BEHAVIOR CHANGED COMPLETELY IN FEB 2009-PRESENT. THIS WAS THE 1ST AND LAST TIME THIS HAD EVER HAPPENED TO ME..

    MORAL OF THE STORY DO WHAT YOU THINK U HAVE TO DO FOR YOUR LIFE. EVEN THOUGH PEOPLE HURT YOU, ITS REALLY NOT UP TO US TO RETURN THE FAVOR. IT IS UP TO GOD. SO EVEN THOUGH I FELT GOOD MAKING HIM CRY, IT WAS GOD WHO HAD ME PAY FOR IT ALL, WHICH IS WORSE THAN ANY PUNISHMENT YOU CAN RECEIVE FROM ANY PERSON.
    THINK LONG, THINK HARD, THINK RIGHT. GOOD LUCK.

  3. Her husband supports her stepping out on the marriage ,so that he will feel that they have equally violated their vows.

    Don’t fall for it !As soon as he is done licking his wounds behind his affair and confession.I f she does anything to cause friction ….trust me he will bring up the affair she had.Perhaps evn followed by two wrongs don’t make it right. It’s a way to say …”you see you’r no better than I am”…Don’t fall for it.

    God forbid, but if the affair should happen ,let it not be part of a get back or relationship game.( it should n’t happen at all ,but this is life )You wil only feel worse over the whole thing.

    Peace and Praise
    Be Blessed,
    Lynn

  4. Hey wendy how u doin well ive been with this guy for 2 years relationship was rcoky from the begining anyways he gave me the attention that i needed @ the time ok we got married in november of 2009 it was the worst day of my life it was not wat i pictured he is a illegal immigrant i married him so he could get his papers and because of love anyways wendy we did work out because of my insecurity and him been a losa… heres the promblem wendy i feel use and abuse and i have the days when i want 2 call him cause the sex was good and i have the days when i want 2 shoot him in the foot.. its so much more 2 this story i dont know wat 2 do wendy i need ur help cause u a friend in my head..

  5. I just turned 52 april 14th, been divorced since 2006 from a 25yr marriage. I haven’t had sex since then. I don’t like my looks, havent bought new clothes in 3yrs. When married i had those luxuries but being a stay at home mom for 24yrs never got any work skills. I wanted so bad
    to had been choosevn for the pantene makeover. I even dreamed about it. My self esteem sucks & well as I told you its been 4 LONG yrs w/o sex. I have made the comment to do the 3day walk for the Susan G Komen cure for breast cancer. Im walking for my 3 aunts & a friend plus all the other women. Im also hoping this will regain my self worth, so maybe katherine not stella can get her groove on, lol
    thanks for listening & I love your show. HOW U DOIN?
    much love, katherine

  6. HI my name is Melanie i am 12 years old Wendy my mom Wach your show every day she loves your show and u her Bithday is coming up it is may19 and she will love to meet MARY J BLIGE. i am asking u to help me and my mom meet to meet her and sing to her please write back. Melanie

  7. Will you please have Fantasia Barrino on the show.I watch your show somethiing 3 times a day and I do like your guest line up so could you please have one of My favorite singers Fantasia Barrino………………..Thanks and love from thie ATL.

  8. When he said that he doesnt care if she steps out thats when she should have packed up. Packed her stuff and left. For a man to say that he doesnt care if his WIFE has an affair with another man, that is a man who doesnt care about his wife nor his marriage. If se was to cheat on her husband that relationsip will not last much longer than it already is. “Their trying to work things out” hunny i wouldnt trust him as far as i could throw him. How you doin’

  9. hello wendy williams, i wached your show today 4/7/2010 and i saw you had a makeover for a lady , that i thought was so nice. i thought you may have the time to do a makeover for the lady in my life. she’s a loveing woman with love for me in her 18teen yearold son, wendy she hard working, she goes to school at temple edu. in works at the hosp. wendy she has no time for herself, she alway’s giveing and i love to see her with a makeover. she’s so into what’s going on with everyone her hair is falling out. i try to tell her and show her my love but i know she’s about me in the house. i been out of work scenes sep 15,2009 and she has hold thing’s down. i just wish she had something for herself, it would make my day. i love her so. please if you can make it happen wendy i will be forever thanking you. i don’t know how far this e-mail will go but i sure hope you will get this one please. oh she’s alway’s waching your show. thank you for the time/ be blessed. gary bullard

  10. hello wendy williams, i wached your show today 4/7/2010 and i saw you had a makeover for a lady , that i thought was so nice. i thought you may have the time to do a makeover for the lady in my life. she’s a loveing woman with love for me in her 18teen yearold son, wendy she hard working, she goes to school at temple edu. in works at the hosp. wendy she has no time for herself, she alway’s giveing and i love to see her with a makeover. she’s so into what’s going on with everyone her hear is falling out. i try to tell her and show her my love but i know she’s about me in the house. i been out of work scenes sep 15,2009 and she is hold thing’s down. i just wish she had something for herself, it would make my day. i love her so. please if you can make it happen wendy i will be forever be thanking you. i don’t know how far this e-mail will go but i sure hope you will get this one please. oh she’s alway’s waching your show. thank you for the time/ be blessed. gary bullard

  11. hello wendy williams, i wached your show today 4/7/2010 and i was you had a makeover for a lady, that i thought was so nice. i thought you may have the time to do a makeover for the lady in my life. she’s a loveing woman with love for me in her 18teen yearold son, wendy she hard working, she goes to school at temple edu. in works at the hosp. wendy she has no time for herself, she alway’s gaveing and i love to see her with a makeover. she’s so into what’s going on with everyone her hear is falling out. i try to tell her and show her my love but i know she’s about me in the house. i been out of work scenes sep 15,2009 and had the hold thing rideing on her in wendy she is holding it down. i just wish she had something for herself, it would make my day. i love her so. please if you can make it happen wendy i will be forever thanking you. i don’t know how far this e-mail will go but i sure hope you will get this one please. oh she’s alway’s waching your show. thank you for the time/ be blessed. gary bullard

  12. Love isnt just a feeling, its a commitment.
    Marriage is a business.

    If I owned a business and found out my partner was secretly working with one of our competitors, I would lose trust in him and that would be IT as far as us doing business together. Of course, I’d be scared to start my own business, but at the same time, I can’t be in business with someone who’s messing with my $$$.

    Don’t hold on to someone who isn’t worth holding on to. People make mistakes and that’s just human nature. However, its the way that we admit to our mistakes and ask for forgiveness. If he was sincere, and you truly believe he made a ONCE IN A LIFETIME mistake, then go to counseling and work it out. If, however, you dont truly believe that in your heart, then walk away and use this experience as a lesson learned.

  13. wendy, when are u coming back. i knew u went to cali, but i thought it was for 1 wk not 2. i’m still watching u, but, i want to hear all about cali. little sister in my mind, what’s up? i can hardly wait for your return. char from chicago.

  14. If he says it’s ok if U step out, It’s over. call it a day. OR drag it on . It’s yr choice. No man says it’s ok to go out if he cares about her unless he is impotent or gay.

  15. No way, any revenge only makes things worse, and usually more so for the person inflicting it. And ? he is sanctioning her retaliatory cheating…really?? don’t even believe he would be oK with it. But there is nothing OK with cheating or getting revenge. Just move on. why would anyone want to be with someone who would either rather be with someone else, or with someone who is comfortable cheating!

  16. I DONT KNOW ABOUT U SWEETY..BUT IF I CANT TRUST U 2 BEHAVE AS THOUGH 1 SHOULD.HOW U EXPECT 4 ME 2 TRUST U..WITH MY KIDZ,FAMILY,MONEY,ETC..TRUST NOT LOVE IZ D TRUE FOUNDATION IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.! I B WISHING N HOPING 4 THEM 2 CRACK THAT FOUNDATION 2..SO I CAN JIMI HENDRIX HER..HEY BRO WERE U GOING WIT DAT GAT IN YOUR HANDZ..IM GOING DOWN 2 SHOOT MY OLE LADY..DONT U KNOW I CAUGHT HER MESSING WIT A NUTTA MAN! LMAO

  17. MOVE On, quickly!
    Food for thought: If they dealt with you being there for 5 years, who else might/are they doing that with?
    It’s too risky as there are two many elements out there against a situation of this nature that are life threatening such as STDs.
    You are a Gem to be treasured…don’t compromise :)

  18. I agree with Wendy 100% but want to add don’t cheat just to get even, you’ll only lower yourself to his level. I think something is seriously wrong in any marriage for someone to stray to this extreme. Seek counseling if possible. That is if and only IF you both love each other and want to work things out. If not, move on. It’s not worth the heartache, humiliation, aggravation, fights, sleepless nights, etc. if you both cannot put in a 100% effort to work things out. Good luck Morgan. Prove to yourself and to him that you have class and are a better person for not cheating.

    How you doin’ Wendy!

  19. Don’t get even, move on because moving on and ignoring that person will crush them everyday. They will expect you to cheat, they expect you to stay around, they will expect you to become insecure. Their gonna want the attention from you in a stalking kind of way. Once you move on and leave that individual alone, they will always sit back and think about the good times you both had, how you made that person feel, it will crush that person because he or she will only have those memories and not those moments back again.

  20. I’ve been with a man 17 years and recently found out that he’s been seeing a female for the last five. I moved out and she’s now coming to the house (our old one that I still have stuff in and keys to screwing him IN OUR BED. So what am I to do? I hadn’t gave up yhe thought of us reconciling but it seems as if he wants his cake, ice cream, and chips I do still love him but cannot get past this hurt. She knew about me 5 years ago I just found out about her I don’t know wtf to do. Oh yeah Wendy, HA YOU DOIN

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