Ask Wendy: The Ultimate Betrayal
What do you do when the two people closest to you hurt you the most?
The latest “Ask Wendy” question comes from Revonia in Georgia who writes:
Dear Wendy, I have been with this guy for 10-years and we’ve been married for 4. I recently discovered that he was having an affair with my twin sister. I‘ve tried to find forgiveness in my heart for both of them but it’s hard. I had to experience so much hurt and pain. Me and my sister have always had a close relationship. I always had her back no matter if she was right or wrong but I’m struggling with being able to trust again. How do I even begin to move forward with my life?
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Wednesday February 3rd, 2010 at 4:39 am
I AGREE! I mean your twin sister…. NO!!!! Forgiveness will come, maybe not as soon as u want it to but it will come. My ex husband messed around with my baby sister AND my so called friends. I ended it and did exactly as Wendy said. Now, 8 years later I am barely talking to her again… though I forgave her a while ago. Just one of those things though…… everyone deals with it differently on a different pace but SO WRONG!
Monday February 1st, 2010 at 4:34 pm
i think that you should not talk to your sister nor your husband for as long as possible because its your emmotions and i think that your sister must have been jealous or tired of you getting all of the “good men”.Your husband must have had some feelings for your sister because sex comes from 2 people.Take your time and think it out, you can even move if you like and forget all about them cause all it is ,is drama but remember family comes first….Good Luck
Thursday January 28th, 2010 at 1:00 am
It’s nothing wrong with not talking to a family member even if it your sister!!! If she was your real sister she wouldn’t do anything like that if she really loved you! That just shows her jealousy and insecurity!!!!
Tuesday January 26th, 2010 at 4:52 pm
Wendy I have been with my daughter’s father for 3yrs and we dated 6yrs ago, when we started dateing again I proposed to him cause I didn’t want to lose him again. But he is no longer the person I fell in love with. We have sex when he wants, he don’t kiss me , he don’t hold my hand is like we are strangers. I feel like in a box don’t want to hurt him but I am not happy or in love anymore. I am also rasing his son Im 32 yrs old and have nothing I worked in Ny and live now in PA wont make the money I use to make and he dont wanna move to NY or even NJ he is cold and he says thats how he is but he wasnt cause if he was no way I would have go back with him. what to do help my sis says leave him live life find happiness and my cuz says love dont live here anymore so just stay for the kids. I have nothing and Im just afraid to start with nothing again or it might be a mistake. help please
Tuesday January 26th, 2010 at 12:18 pm
I sent you this as a question. I am living a similar situation, only my boyfriend has not had physical contact with my sister. He & she only talk on the phone. She has stopped all communication with me. If he had slept with my sister I would feel different, but I know my sister & she would be more to blame than him, because she would know how I feel about him. He is my heart & soul. She is family, but she is crossing not only the “family” line, but the “girlfriend” line.