Mommy Guilt
We all have mommy guilt.
Wendy had a difficult time after giving birth to little Kev and was only able to breastfeed for two weeks.
Part of her felt like a failure because she didn’t want to breastfeed, didn’t want to admit it and didn’t know how to be a mother.
It was Wendy’s own mother who helped pull her up and made her not feel guilty.
Watch this must see moment and tell us if you can relate to Wendy’s mommy guilt?
Sunday October 2nd, 2011 at 1:35 pm
Great post I must say. Simple but yet interesting. Wonderful work!
Monday October 5th, 2009 at 5:06 pm
This is in reference to the 10-5-09 show when Wendy asked for emails from older Moms and their feelings about their babies. I have 2 grown children ages 26 & 30. I became pregnant at the age of 47 with my now 4 y/o daughter. I freaked out! I went to have an abortion because my pregnancy with my 26y/o was dangerous to the point of life threatening for both of us. I’m self supporting and my thinking at the time was that I couldn’t be bed ridden again and then support a child all alone. When I went to have the abortion I was informed that I was five months pregnant and that it was illegal to have an abortion this far along in Arizona.
I faced the fact that I was going to have this baby and then I decided that I would give the baby up for adoption. I’m an abuse survivor and I’ve been depressed for the majority of my life. I decided that I wouldn’t be a good parent for this child and I wanted her to have a better life than I could give her emotionally and financially.
I didn’t know the childs father very well. As a matter of fact he’s 20 years younger than me which is a story all on it’s own. When I told him that he was most likely the father of the baby I was carrying, he contacted me a week later and told me that he wanted to raise the child. To make a long story shorter I gave birth to my daughter 7 weeks prematurely. She’s fine and is very healthy. When I held her for the first time I fell in love with her and I couldn’t imagine my life without her.
I never thought or said that I hated my baby when I was carrying her but I wouldn’t think or talk of a future for her with me….until after she was born.
I made my adoption plans part of my medical record when I was hospitalized. One of the nurses made a very rude comment to me right after she was born by c-section and some nurses delayed taking me to the nursery for me to see her for the first time. Other nurses openly talked to me about my change of heart and it was good for me to open up to them.
So now I’m a 52 y/o mom of my 4y/o child and she’s the best part of my life. Her father and I share custody of her. I’m pulling myself out of my depression without drugs and I thank God for this most special gift he’s given me. I’d love to send a picture of her and I to you.
Wanda Giesick
Monday August 31st, 2009 at 1:28 am
Wendy is so real. I love how she puts ALL haters in check during ask wendy.
no matter if there hating on naturally skinny wemon like myself or a natural singer like mariah.thank you wendy for keepin it real and allowing us to see in to your heart.
Sunday August 30th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
Wendy I want to say that I was not sure about your show when I first saw it advertised, but I decided that I would at least give it a shot. My first thought was this is going to be so ghetto and a waste of a good tv time slot. Boy was I wrong, this show is DA BOMB!!!!. It’s the best thing on tv. No matter what my schedule it, I always make sure that I’m home by 6 pm to watch. Keep doing what you do, becuase you’re great at it. And it’s about time somebody turns a talk show into something people want to watch. No matter what people say, I say keep doing you because it works. Keep working it Wendy. You are my best friend in my head. Keep it going and don’t change.
Saturday August 29th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
OMG As a brand new mom of 6 week old Wyatt I was so happy to know that I am not the only one who goes thru this. I felt like a failure when it didn’t seem like he was getting enough to eat. I cried and it didn’t help that every where I go I get asked if I am still breastfeeding and when I have to say no I feel like I am getting looked down on. Thanks for making me feel better about stopping and not feeling selfish for wanting more time for me.
Friday August 28th, 2009 at 10:58 pm
Wendy,
You really touched my heart with your comments about breastfeeding and Mommy Guilt. I breastfed my daughter Sydney for 5 months until I went back to work and I still felt stressed and guilty. The guilt starts with other mothers and strangers who judge you if you don’t breastfeed your baby until their like 5!!!. Hey you made as long as you could and I say THANK GOD for Goodstart, Enfamil and all other baby formulas.
Friday August 28th, 2009 at 9:48 pm
Wendy OMG u mad me cry when u started crying on your show u shouldn’t feel guilty about not breast feeding at least u have a child I don’t have one but wish I did have one to say I didn’t breast feed, love the show keep up the good work.
Friday August 28th, 2009 at 5:55 pm
Hey Wendy!!! HOW YOU DOING!!!! I LOVE THAT PINK DRESS that you wore wearing yesterday, by the way, your right boob gonna pop any minute.